Bawdy Storytelling

Does assisting the other penis with lube application just feel like the polite thing to do? Burlesque Performer and Kinesthesiologist Jet Noir grew up rejecting the label ‘Bisexual’, because although his mother and father raised him shame-free, the world isn’t quite so openminded. Moving out on his own at 18, he started dating with intention, trying on prospective partners with the intent of recreating the ‘wife and babies’ life that had surrounded him. But as he stood at his father’s grave and watched his mother wave goodbye to the casket, Jet came to a life-changing realization: That was their story, not his, and he never wanted to go back to ‘normal’ ever again. #ShameFree #NoLabels #BeWhoYouAre #DiscoverYourself #MentalHealth


Song: ’No Matter What’ (Calum Scott)


Bisexual l Queer | Gay l Pansexual l Family l Death l Wife and Kids l Shame | Evaluating Life Partners l Fire and Brimstone Church l Gay is Serious l Buy You a Woman l Best Friends l Label It l Manhood | Molesting l Marriage l Dad Jokes l Dating with Intention l Queer Lifestyle l Reassurance l l The Nod l Funeral l Their Story l Let Go l Changed Everything l Attracted to Everyone l Lubrication l Am I Straight l All Inclusive l Out l Pride l Every Gender l


About our Storyteller:


Jet Noir has been involved in sex positive communities since 2002 when he lived in Atlanta and wandered into the now defunct Club Venus. As a Kinesiologist, educated in the study of human movement and sport psychology, he has spent years coaching people to improve their perception of their bodies. He has taught workshops on improving the relationship we have with our five senses (interoception). He’s lectured on unpacking racial fetishization, humor in sex education, and navigating consent, internationally. He’s done clip work and education workshops for Kink dot com. He worked as an organizer for Express Yourself, a play party for people of color by people of color, in Oakland and as the emotional support “Angel” for a few other Bay Area sex positive communities. Jet is a writer who reviews sex toys and porn. Jet lives in Oakland, CA with his partner and their three cats.

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Thank you to the Team that makes this podcast possible!

Team Bawdy is:


Podcast Producer: Roman Den houdijker
Sound Engineer: David Grosof

Storytelling support by Mosa Maxwell-Smith

Dixie’s VA is Roillan James

Additional support from Donal Mooney & Crystal Crowe

Bawdy’s Creator & Podcast Host is Dixie De La Tour

& Thank you to Pleasure Podcasts. Bawdy Storytelling is proud to be part of your sex-positive podcast collective!


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